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Unjust Humanity
Madaari in fathers and the father in Madaari 01 October, 2016
"Daddy's Little Girl", "My Princess", "My Angel" and the list goes on. One would find a plethora of social memes depicting the filial bond between a father and a daughter. But it would be tough to find that such caring and loving memes to showcase a father's love for his son. At best, one would find, "Like Father, Like Son".
So, does that mean that fathers don’t love their sons? That’s not true. On the contrary, fathers love their sons more than anyone else. Fathers love their sons more than they love their daughters and sons get loved by their fathers more than they get loved by their mothers.

A father knows that the world’s a tough place for a man. Being a man, his son would have to shoulder a lot of responsibilities, take care of a lot of people in the family and their needs, he will need to sacrifice a lot of his personal joys and interests, and also never complain about it or show any weakness. A father knows his son’s future much ahead than the son can fathom.

And just the way, men are grilled through a grueling training in the armed forces so that they can guard the frontiers effectively, similarly, a father subjects his son to hardship from a very early age, shows indifference and insensitivity externally, while loving him totally internally, so that the son learns to face life, gears up to brace the challenges of life gracefully and realizes the importance of small things.

This is also the underlying reason for so many children, especially boys from broken families and living with single mothers ending up in crime, drug and sex abuse. They miss the structural stability and discipline that a father brings which ultimately works for the betterment of children. Mothers are incapable of doing that and all the feminists who are trying to uphold a single mother, are doing it with a plastic smile on their face. Internally, they know that the single mother is missing a man in the life but having defamed men to this extent, the feminists and single mothers also know, they can’t go back.

But, on the face of it, when fathers are so strict towards their sons and do not show any sign of love or respect towards him till he grows up to be someone or achieves something, how do we know how much fathers love their sons. It’s visible through the silent actions that fathers do for their sons.

Very recently, a Hindi movie titled “Madaari” was released and the underlying theme of the movie was this incomparable love of a father for his son and when the father loses his revered son owing to malpractices followed in public construction, the extent to which he goes, not only to avenge his son’s death, but to set an example and leave a message for the system and the society, is indescribable in words.

Madaari is the story of a father (played by Bollywood Actor Irrfan Khan) who avenges his son’s death by kidnapping the son of the Home Minister and then cripples the entire state machinery with his precision planning and dire zeal to achieve his mission. And in the end, he succeeds in delivering his message that it is not OK to be casual and callous of deaths happening due to negligence, corruption and mismanagement, because those who lose their loved ones, their whole world turns upside down.

And if it is a father who loses his son, he is beleaguered and devastated beyond repair and the society needs to see the pain that a man goes through when he loses his children, especially sons.

However, before that, let’s understand what does the word “Madaari” mean. A Madaari is actually a Hindi word which describes a profession. The profession is about performing street plays with domesticated wild animals like monkeys and making them perform tricks on the streets. So, why was this film titled Madaari?

That is because, many times, the Madaari must stop food or water supplies to the monkey or even beat it, in order to control it and make it perform tasks for entertainment of people. Often it also follows a story telling session with some moral. In the movie too, Irrfan Khan’s character does the same.

He makes the whole state dance to his tunes by kidnapping the son of the Home Minister and in the process tells his story. Before doing that, he does try telling his story to government officials in a plain and simple manner, but no one listens. However, the moment he has the son of the home minister kidnapped, everyone starts listening to him.

That being the extreme example, even in normal life, one would often see the father essay the role of an apparent villain in the son’s life and in order to make him responsible, often fathers cut down supplies of pocket money or overload the son with a lot of work and in the process, slowly the son becomes like the father - responsible, caring and considerate. Hence comes, “Like Father, Like Son”, a certificate of glory.

Every father has a Madaari inside him wanting to teach his son the ways of life and prepare him for the tough and stressful life of men and the father in the movie Madaari tells us what a bereaved father can do for his son and his love for the son.

Editorial NOTE: This article is categorized under Opinion Section. The views expressed in this article are solely those of the author and do not necessarily represent the views of In case you have a opposing view, please click here to share the same in the comments section.
About The Author
Virag R Dhulia, a software professional, has been a prominent men's rights activist. He has been engaged in creating awareness about the abuse of men and their families through anti-male and gender biased laws like Section 498A, Domestic Violence Act etc. He has been instrumental in networking with fellow men's rights activist both across India and abroad and has played key roles in organizing events to create awareness about abuse of men by the society. A book titled, 'The Secrets of Manhood' authored by Virag has been published. This book is a collection of short articles which focus on issues and problems faced by men and how men are victims of social stereotypes.
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